One of the most common questions we get here at Lusta is "Will people know I'm wearing a topper or wig". This was also the question on my mind before I started wearing hair.
Hey, I'm Kimberly and since I've been losing my hair since I was 19 years old. I have androgenic alopecia, otherwise known as female pattern hair loss. It's a genetic condition which makes my hair super thin.
So, naturally, I thought that when I put a topper on my head and debuted it to the world, EVERYONE would know something was up. I thought I was going to walk into work and all eyes would be on me. I worried that people would whisper about my hair, wondering what had happened to my once thin locks.
I’m sorry to break this to you, but…. Nobody cares about your hair as much as you do.
That first day I wore hair was so anticlimactic. I worked as a high school teacher and my students would comment on every little change I made. If I wore a different necklace they would comment on it. If I wore a headband they would comment on it. So when I walked in with my brand new hair topper I was SURE they were going to say something.
But...lesson 1 came and went....then lesson 2....then lesson 3. Not a SINGLE person even mentioned that I had done something different. I realised something super important that day...nobody gives a shit.
That doesn’t mean that your feelings around your hair loss aren’t valid. They 100% are. But, what I’m trying to say is that people don’t notice what’s going on with you and your hair (whether that’s your bio hair, a wig or a topper) nearly as much as you think they do.
Although you might be analysing every hair line you come into contact with, they’re not doing the same for you. People are way too caught up in their own lives and their own problems to pay attention to your hair strands. Think about it. We all have a friend that's super insecure about part of their appearance, whether they think their nose is too big or they have a zit. Do we notice these things about them? Probably not. Are we going home and thinking about Ashley's nose? Definitely not.
To me, this was the most empowering realisation. It changed the narrative for me. Instead of focusing on how I could improve my appearance to others, I started thinking about making myself feel confident and happy- and yes, sometimes that means wearing hair!
And it's all about how you present yourself. I don't mean that in an appearance way, I mean that in a FEELING way. If you hold your head high, walk through life with CONFIDENCE, people are going to pick up on that energy. If you walk into work with a brand new wig and you're confident, no one is going to think twice.
So, will people know you're wearing hair? It's pretty unlikely. The only people who *may* notice are other hair-wearing sisters (we're well-trained to spot a fellow hair-wearer out and about). But if a member of the secret hair-wearing society does notice your piece, they're a) not going to make a fuss about it, and, b) you might have just made a new friend!